The Masculine Frame: How to Hold the Dominant Masculine Frame with Women
Summary
TLDRThis script discusses the concept of 'frame' in interpersonal relationships, emphasizing its importance in dating dynamics. It explains that a man's frame should be dominant and masculine to lead interactions and attract women. The speaker advises men to shift from seeking approval to owning their reality, showcasing confidence and values without needing validation. Techniques to maintain a strong frame, such as not overreacting to tests and leading the interaction, are highlighted. The script encourages men to embrace their masculine energy to naturally draw women in.
Takeaways
- 😎 **Frame Control**: The importance of establishing a dominant masculine frame during interactions to lead and control the vibe.
- 👤 **Whose Frame?**: Understanding whose frame you are operating within, and the need to operate within your own frame rather than someone else's.
- 👩🦯 **Following vs Leading**: The difference between being led by a woman's frame and leading with your own, and the impact on attraction.
- 🚫 **Avoiding Weakness**: How displaying a weak frame can lead to losing a woman's interest quickly.
- 👮♂️ **Frame Examples**: Using the example of a police officer to illustrate the concept of a strong frame and its effects.
- 🔄 **Shifting the Frame**: The necessity to shift from seeking approval to owning your reality and inviting others into your world.
- 💡 **Mindset Shift**: The simple yet powerful mindset shift from impressing to letting her experience you.
- 🛡️ **Traits of a Strong Frame**: The masculine traits like decisiveness, certainty, and being grounded in values that contribute to a strong frame.
- 🔄 **Handling Tests**: How to maintain your frame when a woman tests it, and using these moments to establish your reality.
- 🚸 **Nice Guy Frame**: The pitfalls of operating within a 'nice guy' frame and why it often fails to attract women.
- 🔗 **Leading Interactions**: Taking responsibility for the direction of an interaction, including escalating and leading the vibe.
Q & A
What is the concept of 'frame' as discussed in the script?
-The 'frame' refers to the invisible set of rules or expectations that govern an interaction. It determines who is in control and what the dynamics of the interaction will be.
Why is it important to control the frame in a social interaction?
-Controlling the frame is important because it allows you to lead the interaction, set the tone, and create a vibe that can attract and maintain the interest of the other person.
What happens when a man operates within a woman's frame?
-When a man operates within a woman's frame, he is playing by her rules, she is in control, and he may be seen as just another guy trying to impress her.
How does a strong frame benefit a man in interactions with women?
-A strong frame allows a man to lead the interaction, be seen as high value, and create a sense of safety and attraction for a woman, making her more likely to be interested in him.
What is the 'dominant masculine frame' mentioned in the script?
-The 'dominant masculine frame' is a mindset and set of behaviors that project confidence, decisiveness, and strength, which are traditionally masculine traits that women are often attracted to.
How can a man shift from seeking a woman's approval to owning his reality?
-A man can shift from seeking approval to owning his reality by focusing on being in his own element, not performing for her, and inviting her into his world without needing her validation.
What is the 'validation vacuum' mentioned in the script?
-The 'validation vacuum' is a situation where a man pulls back his need for approval, forcing the other person to invest more in the interaction to fill the void left by his reduced seeking of validation.
Why is it said that women are hardwired to respond to the dominant masculine frame?
-It is said that women are hardwired to respond to the dominant masculine frame because, from an evolutionary standpoint, a man with such a frame is more likely to provide safety and security.
What is the 'nice guy frame' and why doesn't it work effectively?
-The 'nice guy frame' is an approach where a man tries to invite a woman in by showing he is harmless and nice, but it often signals weakness and hides masculine qualities, which women can subconsciously detect and find unattractive.
How can a man maintain his frame when a woman tests him?
-A man can maintain his frame when tested by staying calm, unfazed, not seeking approval, and not reacting defensively. This shows his frame is strong and can attract respect and interest.
What does the script suggest as a way to improve frame control?
-The script suggests improving frame control by undergoing a mindset shift, being true to oneself, not forfeiting status for approval, and taking responsibility for leading and escalating interactions.
Outlines
🧠 Understanding Frame Control in Relationships
The first paragraph introduces the concept of frame control in interactions between men and women. It discusses how a person's 'frame' refers to the set of rules governing an interaction, and highlights the importance of maintaining control over this frame. The speaker emphasizes that men who operate within their own frame are seen as high-value, while those who fall into the woman's frame will lose her interest. The video will focus on teaching how to maintain a dominant masculine frame that leads the interaction and makes the woman follow the man's lead.
🔍 Defining the 'Frame' in Social Interactions
This section delves deeper into the definition of a 'frame,' explaining that it is the unspoken rules or expectations that guide any social interaction. The example of a man trying to pick up a woman at a bar illustrates how frame control works: if the woman’s frame is stronger, the man will struggle and likely fail to impress her. The paragraph underscores how socially intelligent women can quickly sense if a man is leading the interaction or merely following, with most men typically failing to maintain their own frame when attracted to a woman.
🚨 Frame Control and Authority: A Police Officer Example
The paragraph provides a relatable analogy by comparing frame control to a police officer pulling someone over. In such a situation, the officer controls the frame with authority, and the person being pulled over conforms. This example is used to illustrate how women can control the frame in romantic or social situations, leaving men reactive and powerless. A case study of a client highlights how men often end up chasing women’s approval, further reinforcing that women lose interest when they dominate the frame.
❓ How to Control the Frame and Avoid Chasing
The speaker explains that men often lose control of the frame without even realizing it, especially when they feel 'lucky' to receive any attention from a woman. The paragraph touches on how frame control affects not just relationships with women, but also interactions with intimidating figures like high-status men or bosses. It suggests that the key to gaining control of the frame is to lead the interaction confidently, which makes a woman feel secure in her feminine role.
💡 A Simple Mindset Shift for Frame Control
This paragraph introduces a practical tip: instead of trying to impress a woman, men should focus on letting her experience their world. The subtle mindset shift from seeking approval to owning one’s reality is powerful, as it allows men to stop performing for women and instead be confident in their own element. By living in their own reality, men can effortlessly pull women into their frame, demonstrating a strong and attractive masculine presence.
⚡ Masculine Traits for a Strong Frame
The speaker highlights masculine traits such as decisiveness, certainty, and being grounded in one’s values as essential for building a strong frame. A strong frame naturally pulls a woman into the man’s reality, making her more attracted to him. This section emphasizes the importance of being autonomous and not relying on a woman’s approval for validation, which strengthens a man’s frame and makes it more dominant in interactions.
🌀 The Validation Vacuum: A Frame Battle
The speaker introduces the concept of the 'validation vacuum,' explaining that when a man pulls back from seeking approval, it forces the woman to invest more into the interaction. The vacuum creates a shift in frame control, allowing the man to regain dominance. While this approach may feel unnatural for 'nice guys' at first, de-idolizing women and recognizing their flaws is crucial for building and maintaining a dominant masculine frame.
🏞 De-idolizing Women and Embracing Masculinity
This section argues that many men idolize women, which weakens their frame by making them feel inferior. It stresses that men must realize their own value and stop seeking women’s validation. By embracing their masculinity, men can naturally command a stronger frame in interactions. The speaker references evolution, suggesting that women are hardwired to respond to dominant masculine frames for survival reasons.
⚔️ Passing Women's Tests: Maintaining the Frame
The speaker explains that women will often test men to see if their confidence is real or merely an act. These tests are opportunities for men to demonstrate the strength of their frame by staying calm and grounded. An example from a client shows how maintaining composure during such tests reinforces the man’s dominance in the interaction, increasing a woman’s respect and attraction. The key is to not overreact or seek approval when challenged.
🛡 Women Are Attracted to Strong Frames
This paragraph reiterates that women are instinctively attracted to men with a strong reality or frame, which makes them feel secure. The speaker calls frame control a 'cheat code,' noting that men who understand this concept can command more respect and attraction from women. It suggests that maintaining a strong frame is a natural way to lead interactions without being manipulated by external validation.
🔄 Flipping the Script and Avoiding the 'Nice Guy' Frame
The speaker reflects on the common 'nice guy' frame, which men often use to try and win over women by being agreeable and non-threatening. However, this frame pushes aside masculine qualities and gives women power, making it less attractive. Men are encouraged to 'flip the script' by subtly changing conversations and adjusting their behavior to regain control, rather than toning down their personality to avoid conflict.
🔥 Using Tension to Build Attraction
The paragraph emphasizes the importance of tension in building attraction. Nice guys often avoid tension, which weakens their frame and lessens their appeal. By embracing friction in interactions and leading the vibe, men can create the tension necessary for attraction. The speaker urges men to take control of situations, such as moving a date to a better location or going for a kiss, to project masculine energy and maintain a dominant frame.
🎯 Conclusion: Taking Control of the Frame and Interactions
The speaker concludes by inviting viewers to join a free class that breaks down how to project high-status, masculine energy and keep women chasing them. He notes that masculinity and high status are not about external factors like money or looks, but about the value a man places on himself. The video encourages men to focus on controlling how they are perceived by women and others, rather than being led by others’ expectations or frames.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Frame
💡Frame Control
💡Dominant Masculine Frame
💡Validation Vacuum
💡Decisiveness
💡Certainty
💡Idolization
💡Evolutionary
💡Tension
💡Escalation
Highlights
The concept of 'frame' in relationships refers to the set of rules or expectations that govern an interaction.
Operating within a woman's frame means playing by her rules and seeking her approval.
A man with a strong frame leads the interaction and sets the reality of the situation.
Women are socially intelligent and can quickly discern whether a man is leading or following.
Most men have a weak frame, which gets absorbed by a woman's frame when they are attracted to her.
When a man's frame is weak, he ends up chasing a woman's approval, which can lead to her losing interest.
The idea of frame plays out in almost every social interaction.
An example of frame is the dynamic between a driver pulled over by a police officer.
A strong frame comes from knowing who you are, what you want, and not needing approval.
Traits like decisiveness, certainty, and being grounded in your values build a strong frame.
Autonomous men naturally have a strong frame that can overpower others in an interaction.
Pulling back your attention and need for approval is a strategy to maintain your frame.
De-idolizing women helps men realize they bring value to the table and don't need to chase validation.
Women are hardwired to respond to the dominant masculine frame.
Maintaining your frame during conflict or tests from a woman is crucial for establishing respect and attraction.
The 'nice guy' frame signals weakness and often does not work in attracting women.
It's important to flip the script when you feel yourself reacting to a woman's frame.
Leading the interaction, escalating, and controlling the vibe are all part of the masculine frame.
The perception of high status and masculinity is about the internal value you place on yourself.
The free class 'Three Steps to Status, Value, and Power' teaches how to project high status and maintain frame control.
Transcripts
every relationship every time a man and a woman interact there's a frame around it the question
is whose frame are you operating in yours or hers because here's the thing if you're in her frame
you're playing by her rules she's in control she's leading the vibe and guess what in her reality
you're just another guy trying to impress her and she's going to take advantage of that but when she
steps into your frame Everything Changes in an instant so when this video we're going to talk
about frame control and I'm going to teach you the dominant masculine frame that brings her into your
reality so that she starts to follow your lead and Chase your approval where she sees you as the
high value man that she wants to be around hi on Bobby Rio and this video is about instilling the
dominant masculine frame that keeps you in control so that you own the reality that you and a woman
are operating in the one who owns the reality wins the game period now I want to start by
defining this concept of a frame and I want to do it as simply as I can so a frame is basically the
invisible set of rules or expectations that govern an interaction so if a guy approaches a woman at
a bar and he tells her that she's beautiful and then he asks if he can buy her a drink meanwhile
she's only half paying attention she's giving her friends the help me eyes and she's trying
to position her body away from him well the frame around that interaction is he's trying to pick me
up so the guy is going to clash with that frame right uh she's not going to make it easy for him
because whoever has the stronger frame controls the flow of the interaction so if her frame is
stronger he's going to struggle to find things to say he's going to start asking her questions
trying to impress her now here's the thing women are very socially intelligent which means they
can feel this instantly whether you're leading her or following her are you conforming to her
reality or is she conforming to yours now the problem is most guys have a very weak frame
and the minute that they're attracted to a girl their frame gets absorbed by hers so that you
end up chasing her approval and she feels it and there's something about overpowering a man where
she'll lose interest very very quickly now this may seem abstract but it's constantly playing out
in almost every social interaction this idea of a frame uh here's a concrete example that
you're probably familiar with if you've ever been pulled over by a police officer think of
that frame he's the authority he walks over he tells you to roll your window down he doesn't
even say hi he just says license and registration and you're just hoping that you don't say anything
wrong you're you know you're trying to avoid uh a ticket you're trying to be nice oh good
good afternoon officer right you're nervous the frame is obvious he's 100% in in control and he
knows it unfortunately for a lot of guys it's that obvious to a woman that she controls the
frame with you okay so to help illustrate even even further I want to give you another quick
example from a client that I just started working with and a woman that he's been pursuing for the
past few months now he'd been you know spinning his wheels with her just confused by her hot and
cold behavior all the classic sort of emotional quicksand type of situations that I deal with a
lot where every time she pulls back he's chasing her harder he's texting her more he's like you
know brainstorming date ideas that he can take her on to prove himself thinking that this is what's
going to win her over but in reality every time he did that he was stepping deeper into her frame
which means that he's playing by her rules you've probably dealt with a girl where it's pretty clear
that she's calling the shots you're reacting to her you're following her schedule her time
table you're even adjusting your behavior based on her whims and her moods even things like her
sense of humor her interests What She Likes what she doesn't like when a woman has total control
of the frame a guy would trash his own mom to get rapport with her that's how strong it is so
my client is in this situation and the time that she agrees to meet up with him uh very often the
interaction would go like this he'd spend most of the time trying to keep the conversation going
he'd feel this pressure to keep her entertained asking you know questions and just overly laughing
at her jokes and seeking approval and you know even though she was there physically
uh emotionally I can almost guarantee that she was drifting because he was stuck in her frame
and the natural state for a female is to want to enter into a man's frame it's very weak for
a man to get absorbed into a woman's frame so when she's dominating the frame it's very hard
for her to stay interested now this happened to be a client that that I just dealt with but when
most guys start recounting their situations to me when we do coaching this is something that I see
over and over and the worst part is when you're not aware of this you have no clue that you're
operating in this Frame and you actually feel lucky to get the scraps of attention or approval
that you get from her when you're operating in somebody else's frame it's like your needs and
desires even your entire personality becomes secondary to theirs and this just doesn't like
only happen with women sometimes when we're with or around a high status guy or a boss or just a
guy who intimidates us a bit his frame absorbs ours and it's like our personality takes a back
seat to his so frame dictates everything so the question becomes how do you control the
frame so that she's entering your reality and you're leading the interaction the vibe
in that dominant masculine way that she craves from a man because here's a big secret she wants
that a woman wants to be with a man whose reality is so strong that she folds into it because the
moment she feels your frame is stronger she can relax and that's what she wants she wants to relax
into that feminine role which is where she truly wants to be but most men don't understand this
and they unknowingly hand the power over to her so how do you actually take control of the frame
and not just take control of it but actually keep it right cuz it's very easy to lose it once you
stumble well the first is a very simple mindset shift the next time that you're with her instead
of thinking how do I impress her flip it to how do I let her experience me this subtle shift changes
things from seeking her approval to owning your reality and she'll feel that difference
immediately and what I mean by how do I get her to experience me is that you stop worrying about
what she thinks and instead you focus on being in your own element you're not performing for
her you're inviting her into your world and you're letting her feel the confidence and the strength
that comes from a man who doesn't need to chase approval a lot of it is even just amusing yourself
right we've all been with friends or people we're comfortable with and we are in our own reality and
we're not thinking like is this joke going to make them laugh or is this story going to like make me
look impressive we're just enjoying like our own reality we're making a joke that amuses us we're
telling a story that we want to tell and that's what I mean by living in your own reality you're
not dictating your behavior because of what you think it's going to impress upon the other person
okay so for instance with this mindset instead of nervously feeling that pressure to fill every
silence you'd let the Quiet Moments hang because you're comfortable in your own skin or instead
of agreeing with everything that she says you'd playfully challenge her showing her that you're
not afraid to push back a little bit when she says something that doesn't line up with your values
or you have a different opinion you also want to think what are the masculine traits that build a
very strong frame a frame that's not easily shaken think about traits like decisiveness certainty and
being grounded in your values a strong frame comes from a place of knowing who you are what you want
and not needing her approval to feel validated this naturally pulls her into your reality this
is why the more you're in touch with your goals your values your purpose the more what I call
uh being autonomous the more autonomous you are the more your frame naturally begins being the
overpowering one in an interaction so one tip to try out is just forcing yourself to pull back your
attention while you're talking to her pull back your need for approval I talk in another video of
mine about the validation vacuum and this really is a frame battle right where when you pull back
it's almost like you Force the other person to invest more because someone needs to fill that
vacuum it's human nature right obviously if you've been operating in the nice guy frame for a while
this is not going to come easy at first so how do you do it right how do you make this change
well part of it comes from the de idolization of women where you realize that you've been putting
women on a pedestal making their approval of you the center of your world and this idolization work
wors you because it warps your frame because now you're operating from a position of inferiority
and the moment that you realize that she's not some mystical unattainable figure but just
another person with flaws and all it's easier to get into that masculine frame but you got to
drill that into your mind so here's sort of a not politically correct thing to say but the reality
is for centuries right almost since the beginning of time the masculine frame has always been the
stronger one that's why women are hardwired to respond to it I mean from an evolutionary
standpoint is she more likely to survive in the jungle with a man who's got that dominant
masculine frame or the guy with the weak nice guy frame from an evolutionary standpoint just being
a man brings value to a woman de idolization of women is about recognizing that you bring value
to the table and you don't need to chase her validation the caveat is you have to act like a
man so how do you begin changing the frame of your interactions with women well here's the thing it's
easy to say I'm going to keep my frame I'm going to project masculinity but the true test is when
she pushes back against you and she will because women know that any guy can temporarily fake
confidence or masculinity so she's going to test you or even try to trap you and in these moments
is where most guys crumble right they either get offensive they start seeking validation or they
overcompensate trying to win back her approval but when you maintain your frame when you can
stay calm and unfazed by her tests that's when she starts to see you as the real deal someone
that she can respect and be attracted to and feel safe entering into your reality so you almost want
to look at these moments of conflict or her tests as Windows of opportunity to reestablish the frame
so an example from the client that I mentioned earlier so as I had him start interacting with
her in this more dominant frame and I told him you know sort of settle things to do and changes
like clockwork she began setting these traps and testing him for a woman when a nice guy all of a
sudden starts to man up she's going to test you because she thinks it's an act she's going to
throw comments out she's going to try to break that frame now she won't always be direct as
this woman was but what this woman was was she started to bring up something from my client's
past interactions hinting that he he wasn't always this confident and she literally says
you've changed and I'm not sure I like the new you now before we work together he would have gotten
defensive he would have probably tried to explain himself or even apologized right I mean listen we
can all talk tough and I see it in the comments all the time but if a girl we like says I don't
know if I like this new you our natural reaction was would be to try to smooth things over right
but instead he just smiled and said maybe but I like this me a lot better and he didn't justify
anything he didn't Seeker approval he simply stayed grounded in his new frame it's moments
like these where a woman is testing you a bit that you have the opportunity to bring her into your
Reality by owning the frame so instead of reacting to her test or trying to win her approval you're
showing her that your frame isn't easily shaken and that's what she needs to see I'll say it again
cuz it's almost a cheat code women are naturally attracted to men whose reality feels stronger than
theirs it's hardwired into them from millions of years of evolution and it's what makes her feel
safe excited intrigued now before we go further I I want to get a sense of do you understand this
concept of frames and frame control I know it's a little bit you know abstract so let me know in the
comments section because if not I will go deeper into this in another video because it really is
that important like I said it's a cheat code okay so now I want you to think about the current frame
that you're putting out into the world not just with women but especially when it comes to women
but just in general right uh because so many guys and I was like this myself for a very long time I
approached women with that nice guy frame this is a frame that tries to invite a woman in by showing
her that you're harmless you're nice you're easy to talk to you try to compliment her so she feels
good about herself the problem with this Frame is that it pushes your most masculine qualities to
the back burner it almost hides them from her it also puts her in the position of power where she
feels like she's the one who has to lead or decide or she's the judge she's deciding whether you're
worth her attention now the nice guy frame might seem like a safe approach but it signals weakness
you're essentially telling her that you're playing it safe because you're not confident enough to
show her your true masculine self and women pick up on this they're not stupid I said it earlier
they have a lot of social intelligence they pick it up on it instantly which is why the nice guy
frame never works so you have to be conscious of it as it's happening and one thing that I
tell clients is when you feel yourself reacting to her frame immediately flip the script as quickly
as possible a simple way to do this is to subtly shift the conversation or just change the topic
completely right just change the conversation thread um and don't feel weird about it right
or something even it's like standing taller or pulling back slightly and letting her lean in
to regain your attention and and it also involves not forfeiting your status for the sake of being
liked a lot of guys make the mistake of toning down their personality or holding back their
opinions to avoid rocking the boat but when you do that you're subconsciously telling her that
her approval is more important than your own sense of self now the key to keeping your strong frame
is to say true to who you are even if it means she might not agree with you or she might not like you
or you risk some friction with her in fact that friction can actually work in your favor right
it creates tension and tension fuels attraction I mean one of the big reasons that nice guys have so
much trouble attracting women is because they are afraid of tension and I talked about this recently
in my video called your masculinity is the sexiest thing about you tension is a key ingredient to
attraction now another part of it is understanding that it's your responsibility to take control
of an interaction meaning if you sense that the date is not going well or you know the location is
is is boring you know just say hey I know better place let's go there and at the end of the night
it's your responsibility to go for the kiss you have to be in control of moving things forward of
leading the vibe of escalating these are all the masculine qualities they're part of the masculine
frame now if you're tired of always reacting always feeling like you're trying to live up
to her expectations that you're never in control then it's time to flip the script operating in
the masculine frame is so much more fun imagine walking into any interaction with the confidence
that you set the tone that you're going to lead the vibe that you create it that she's drawn
into your reality in my free class three steps to status value and power I break down exactly
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