You’re scared. Don't worry, I am too.

Summary

In this candid video, the speaker reveals a universal pattern observed across all levels of success: a persistent feeling of uncertainty and self-doubt. Despite achieving financial milestones, from $0 to multi-millions, the sense of 'not knowing what one is doing' remains constant. The speaker argues that this feeling is not a curse but a blessing, signaling continuous growth and pushing of boundaries. Embracing this discomfort is key to success, as it propels individuals to keep striving for more. The speaker encourages viewers to acknowledge their achievements, no matter how small, and to be their own biggest supporter, as life demands constant growth with no room for complacency.

Takeaways

• 🔄 The feeling of uncertainty and not knowing what one is doing is common across all stages of success, from beginners to multi-billionaires.
• 💡 Success does not eliminate the feeling of imposter syndrome or self-doubt; it is a persistent part of the journey for many high achievers.
• 🌟 Embracing the feeling of not knowing everything can be a sign that one is pushing oneself and growing, rather than becoming complacent.
• 🚀 The realization that doubt and discomfort can be harnessed as a motivator for continued progress and achievement.
• 💭 The importance of acknowledging personal wins and progress, no matter how small, as a means of maintaining a positive and growth-oriented mindset.
• 🌱 The idea that personal growth is a continuous process with no 'coasting' phase, where one must either grow or dwindle.
• 🌼 The encouragement to give oneself credit and celebrate achievements, as self-appreciation is crucial for maintaining motivation and resilience.
• 🤔 The script highlights the fluctuating nature of emotions and confidence in the face of business challenges and successes.
• 📈 The speaker's personal experiences illustrate the highs and lows of managing multiple ventures and the emotional impact of these experiences.
• ✍️ The value of journaling as a tool for self-reflection and tracking personal growth over time.
• 🌈 The final message is one of solidarity, reminding the audience that fear and doubt are shared experiences among all, including the most successful individuals.

Q & A

What is the main theme of the speaker's admission in the video?

The main theme is the universal feeling of uncertainty and the illusion of having everything figured out, regardless of one's level of success.

What did the speaker feel when making different income levels, from $0 to a million a month?

The speaker felt like they had no idea what they were doing at every income level, indicating that success does not necessarily bring the feeling of knowing what one is doing.

What misconception does the speaker mention people have about success?

The misconception is that there will come a point in life where one has everything figured out, which the speaker argues is not true.

How does the speaker describe the feeling of being successful but still doubtful?

The speaker describes it as a pattern observed across all levels of success, where even multi-billionaires feel doubtful about their abilities.

What realization did the speaker have about the feeling of not knowing what they're doing?

The speaker realized that this feeling is a blessing and a sign that they are still pushing themselves and growing, rather than becoming complacent.

What is the significance of the phrase 'new levels, new devils' in the context of the script?

It signifies that as one achieves new levels of success, new challenges and doubts arise, implying that growth is a continuous process with no end.

What does the speaker suggest is the number one sign that you're doing something right in life?

The speaker suggests that the feeling of not knowing what you're doing and having doubts is the number one sign that you're pushing yourself and on the right path.

What is the purpose of the tattoo 'wherever you go, there you are' according to the speaker?

The tattoo serves as a reminder that external success can change, but the internal state of always feeling like there's more to learn and achieve remains constant.

How does the speaker suggest using feelings of doubt to one's advantage?

The speaker suggests turning feelings of doubt into a gauge or barometer of progress, using them as signs that one is still pushing oneself and growing.

What does the speaker recommend doing to maintain a healthy balance between pushing for more and acknowledging one's achievements?

The speaker recommends acknowledging wins, no matter how small, and giving oneself credit for the progress made, while also continuing to push for more.

Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of journaling in the context of personal growth?

Journaling is emphasized as a way to catalog one's progress and mindset over time, allowing for reflection on how far one has come and maintaining perspective on personal growth.

Outlines

00:00

😌 Embracing the 'Imposter' Feeling Across Success Levels

The speaker admits that despite observing people at various stages of their financial journey, from broke to multi-billionaires, a common pattern emerges: everyone feels like they don't know what they're doing. This feeling persists regardless of income level, from making nothing to a million dollars a month. The speaker used to believe this was a negative, but has come to see it as a blessing, a sign of continuous growth and the driving force behind success. The realization that this feeling is universal helps alleviate the anxiety and stress of feeling alone in one's journey, suggesting that this uncertainty is a sign you're on the right path.

05:01

🌟 The Illusion of External Success Influencing Internal State

The speaker reflects on the idea that external success does not necessarily equate to an internal sense of accomplishment or satisfaction. They discuss the importance of recognizing and embracing feelings of doubt and insecurity, which are common even among billionaires. These feelings are seen as indicators that one is on the right path, pushing boundaries, and growing. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being comfortable with discomfort and using it as a gauge for progress. They also stress the need for self-acknowledgment and self-appreciation, suggesting that one should be their own biggest fan and supporter.

10:05

📈 Navigating the Highs and Lows of Entrepreneurial Ventures

The speaker shares personal experiences of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with managing multiple businesses and investments. They discuss a challenging day where they felt deflated after a difficult call about one of their companies, Big Day, which is facing complications in expansion and product practicality. In contrast, they also describe the exhilaration of finalizing a significant investment in a company worth hundreds of millions of dollars. The speaker encourages viewers to maintain a record of their achievements, no matter how small, as a means to measure personal growth and to provide comfort during moments of doubt. They conclude by reinforcing the message that fear and uncertainty are shared experiences among all successful individuals, and that one should find peace in these feelings and continue to support oneself.

Keywords

💡Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent fear of being exposed as a 'fraud'. In the video, the speaker relates this concept to the feeling of not knowing what they're doing, even at various stages of success, indicating that this syndrome is common among people regardless of their achievements.

💡Doubt

Doubt refers to a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction. The video emphasizes that doubt is a universal experience among people from all walks of life, including multi-billionaires. It suggests that doubt is not a sign of failure but rather an indicator that one is pushing oneself and growing.

💡Success

Success in the video is portrayed as a journey with varying levels of accomplishment, from making no income to becoming a multi-billionaire. The speaker uses success to illustrate the ongoing nature of self-doubt and the importance of continuous growth, rather than a static endpoint.

💡Growth

Growth is a central theme in the video, representing both personal development and the expansion of one's capabilities. The speaker argues that life demands constant growth, and there is no such thing as 'coasting'— one is either growing or dwindling, with no in-between.

💡Anxiety

Anxiety is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. The video mentions that the misconception of having everything figured out at a certain point in life contributes to anxiety, and recognizing the shared experience of doubt can alleviate it.

💡Complacency

Complacency is a state of being satisfied with the status quo, often leading to a lack of ambition or effort. The speaker warns against complacency, suggesting that it is the moment one feels they have everything handled that they may become stagnant.

💡Self-Acknowledgment

Self-acknowledgment is the act of recognizing and appreciating one's own achievements and efforts. The video encourages viewers to be their own number one fan and supporter, and to give themselves 'flowers' or praise for their accomplishments, no matter how small.

💡Journaling

Journaling is the practice of regularly writing down one's thoughts, feelings, and experiences. The speaker highlights journaling as a valuable tool for cataloging personal progress and reflecting on one's journey, providing a tangible record of growth and change.

💡Mental Models

Mental models are frameworks representing understanding of phenomena or systems, used to make decisions and predictions. The video suggests that more successful individuals have better mental models, contributing to their worldview and decision-making, yet they still experience doubt and insecurity.

💡Investment

In the context of the video, investment refers to the act of committing resources, such as money or time, into a venture with the expectation of a return. The speaker shares personal experiences with investments, illustrating the emotional highs and lows associated with such ventures.

💡Determination

Determination is the firmness of purpose or resolve. The video conveys that despite feelings of doubt and fear, having determination and pushing through discomfort are signs that one is on the right path and actively pursuing their goals.

Highlights

Admission of a universal pattern: feeling like we don't know what we're doing, from broke to multi-billionaire status.

The realization that success does not equate to having all the answers.

The importance of acknowledging the commonality of feelings of doubt and uncertainty.

The concept of imposter syndrome and its prevalence even among the most successful individuals.

The idea that the day one stops feeling uncertain is the day their growth stops.

Observation that complacency often follows the belief of having 'figured it out'.

The notion that life demands growth, with no room for coasting or stagnation.

The feeling of 'I don't know what I'm doing' as a sign of being on the right path.

The significance of self-acknowledgment and the importance of being one's own cheerleader.

The balance between pushing for more and recognizing personal achievements.

The tattoo 'wherever you go, there you are' as a reminder of internal consistency despite external changes.

The necessity of imagining success before it can manifest in reality.

The similarities in mindset between a billionaire and a beginner, despite their different external circumstances.

The importance of turning feelings of doubt into a gauge for personal growth.

The practice of journaling as a tool for cataloging personal progress and self-reflection.

The significance of small wins and the practice of giving oneself credit for daily achievements.

The emotional rollercoaster of managing multiple businesses and the importance of perspective.

The final message of solidarity with the audience, acknowledging that fear and uncertainty are shared experiences.

Transcripts

so I have something to admit to you guys

and this may genuinely shock you but as

I'm on my way to dinner tonight I just I

thought I'd get off my chest now I see

people at all stages of their journey I

see people right as their beginners I

see people as they're riding the initial

waves of success and I have friends who

are multi-billionaires but yet I keep

seeing the pattern again and again all

the way from completely broke to multi-

multi-billionaire Titan status and my

admission is that I have the same

pattern in my life I'm no different and

that pattern is that we all and I mean

all of us feel like we don't know what

we're doing we all feel like we're

swimming in the deep end you know I

tweeted something a little while back

and it really resonated with people

which is when I was making 0 a month I

felt like I have no idea what I'm doing

then I started making $1,000 a month and

honestly I felt like I had no idea what

I was doing started making 10 grand a

mon month still felt like I had no idea

what I was doing all the way to $100,000

a month all the way to a million do a

month and onwards from there the point

is it doesn't change you think it will

but it doesn't as I said people have

this misconception you get to a point in

life where you have it all figured out

and I think that's that's honestly half

the anxiety that's honestly half the

stress feeling like you are alone but

the God's honest truth is that we are

all alone in this together we are all

feeling the same emotions and it's so

wild for me to observe in my life people

who have accomplished so much and yet

they feel like they know so little they

are still always doubtful of their

abilities and it was something that I

kind of toyed with for a while I'm like

is this what like imposter syndrome

feels like is this like where is this

coming from and will this ever go and

then one day I

realized it's a blessing and one day I

realized that the day that I stopped

feeling like this is the day that I'm

dwindling is the day that it's over for

me you see I have never observed someone

who has continued to accomplish success

in life and they don't have these

feelings the only time I have ever

observed someone kick their feet up and

go you know what like I I feel like I

have this handled I feel like I have a

grip on things the only time that I have

ever ever observed that is someone who

is about to become complacent it's

someone who thinks that okay you know

what I know what my Lim are I've pushed

my limits and I'm happy where I am right

now and it's been my observation in life

that there's no such thing

as coasting there's no such thing as

like staying in the same place you're

either growing or you're dwindling there

is no in between there's no such thing

as like oh you know I get to a certain

point and I just kick my feet up and

that's it life is going to demand growth

of you as they say new levels new devils

and the reason I bring all this stuff up

is because it just parlays and it comes

back to my main point which

is that feeling

of I don't know what I'm doing here like

I don't have this figured out that is

the number one Telltale

sign that you're doing something right

in life that doubt is the number one

Telltale sign that you are actually

pushing

yourself

and I don't know what I'm going to title

this video I think it may be something

along the lines of you're you're scared

but it's okay because I am too and

that's really what I wanted to get

across here in this beginning portion of

the video is

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that I just

think sometimes us as humans feelings

can become so overwhelming when we feel

like it's Unique to us but when there's

a common energy it kind of puts us at

rest cuz we're like you know what

everyone else is going through it like

I'll give you an example feeling tired

like everyone just feels tired some days

like you don't think just cuz you feel

tired that there's something

fundamentally wrong with you or that uh

you're not on the right path you're just

like no I just feel tired today like

it's just a part of human existence but

yet when we have these feelings of you

know I don't know if I can do this like

if when we have those feelings of doubts

I feel like sometimes it's there's like

so much shame Associated to it and

there's so much like oh this is a me

thing it's not a you thing every single

person I know who has accomplished

anything anything worth mentioning has

gone through that and anyone who is

still on a trajectory to continue to

accomplish things worth mentioning still

goes through that to this day including

myself I got this tattoo that says

wherever you go there you are and it

confuses people a lot of times I will

admit but I had I got this tattoo around

this time that I made my first million

dollars because you know I was expecting

to make a million dollars and then all

of a sudden be like wow I'm like I got

this unlock like I know what I'm doing

here and that I didn't

and wherever you go there you are was a

reminder to myself like listen your

externals will

change and I knew that everything that

came into F in my life I saw it so many

years in advance and you know it's funny

sometimes people ask me like oh are you

surprised that any of this happened like

you know could you have ever imagined it

the truth is like yeah of course

imagined it that's why it

happened like how do you not understand

I had to imagine it I had to to see it

first and then only could it manifest

then only could it materialize in real

life

so I knew that all of

this all of this success in life I knew

that was going to

come but I think one of the difficult

things for me was realizing that your

internal state will not

change it's I wish there was a

transcript you can make a transcript of

the Billionaire's mind in there in a day

and The Beginner's mind in the day just

trying to make their first few dollars

online and you will see that there's

actually a lot more resemblance than

people think of course yes the

billionaire they have better mental

models they have better better mental

Frameworks they have a clear worldview

and I bet they have much much more

positive thinking but I also guarantee

they have feelings of doubts they have

feelings of insecurity they have

feelings of restlessness that they're

not doing

enough and it was only when I really

looked around in my life as I mentioned

where I was like that's good that

actually means that you're on the right

track that means you're on the right

path and that shouldn't be something

where you want that feeling to go away I

think for a couple years as I was really

starting to come into my stride and

really starting to become very

successful I was like well why are these

feelings still here like no I should

like I I did all this like no I'm

why are these why are these feelings

here why are these emotions here and it

was only when I learned to turn those

emotions and those feelings

into my gauge and my barometer they're

like

oh I'm proud of you you're still

pushing you're still

uncomfortable and it was only when I

learned to become comfortable in that

uncomfort that like my life took off and

I think that's one of the reasons why

there's so many people who who get

success in life like listen if you get

success in life bless you

congratulations it could be a fluke but

when you keep growing year on year on

year and I'm not just talking about

financially by the way I just mean as a

human as a person like to me that's

something

special but that brings us on to the

next part of this video which is I told

you to feel all those emotions

and turn those into your superpower but

on the other hand I also

pray that you woke up today and someone

was proud of

you and most importantly I hope that

person was

you I pray that you woke

up and you gave yourself the flowers you

deserve because I think

sometimes it's this like dichotomy of

you need to have a healthy balance

of pushing and wanting more in life and

understanding that you have more to

accomplish and feeling comfortable in

that uncomfort but then also realizing

how far you've

come and how far you've come I don't

mean that you're you know in 3 months

you went from living at home with your

parents now you're a multi-millionaire I

mean like hey 3 months ago you couldn't

even sit still for 5 minutes and do 5

minutes and now look at

you giving yourself your flowers in the

sense that you couldn't sit and watch

like a unedited off the- Dome video like

this you couldn't do that 90 days days

ago it wasn't mentally stimulating and

engaging enough for you so even that is

a win so really I implore you every

single morning and this is something I

stopped doing for a while and something

I had to reintroduce in the last 6

months and last 12 months because also

that's other

thing all of your externals can Elevate

but that doesn't mean that necessarily

your internal state is where it needs to

be and I even found myself in the last

like half a year 12 months letting my

mindset

slip the the reason I got to where I am

in life is by having a bulletproof

mindset and I think I've built the

infrastructure and the systems around me

where like it didn't need to be as iron

as it used to be and now that's

something that I'm reintroducing back in

my life where I'm actually starting to

acknowledge my WIS again and remember

who the I am the fact that I built this

with my own two hands everything around

me my reality and I really think you

need to take time to acknowledge those

wins because sometimes it's just so easy

to

like even in one day like it's so funny

I had this yesterday where at 4 p.m.

there's a call regarding one of my

companies one of my physical product

Brands and and at that company things

are going well but not as well as I

would have hoped to and there's just a

lot

of a lot of complications and a lot of

difficulties that come with that company

you know just be super transparent here

that company is big day so obviously I

have a few different physical product

brands some that I started myself a

bunch that I've invested in you know

everything from an electrolyte brand all

the way to eyewear as you guys know

usually I just build products that I

would want anyway so I'm on this call at

4:00 with the entire team at big day

there's just so many complications with

import even down to small things like

you know we're expanding into the Middle

East now and there's like caffeine taxes

like all these things you don't foresee

having a 100% tax and 100% markup when

you import caffeine into the Middle East

like there's just you know the

logistical nightmare of shipping the

heavy heavy beverages which is why

usually it's not a good idea to do so

and then also not wanting to take

distribution because that's just not the

route that we want to go for now even

though it's extremely lucrative so so

anyways things aren't necessarily going

bad there it's just we're rejigging a

couple things and we're rejigging the

product skew and making products that

are a little bit more practical because

I said the issue is sometimes is I make

products for me so I make these products

that honestly I just use myself but that

doesn't necessarily mean that they're

the most practical for the market so we

have this call at 4:00 and to be honest

I just feel like a little deflated after

the call and all those things come to

your mind of like I don't know where

this will go I don't know if this is

going to succeed I don't know if bubble

and you have start having these doubts

in your mind which as I said is actually

a good thing and it's so funny at like

4:00 I felt like that and then at 10:00

I have a call with this company this

company that's worth hundreds of

millions of dollars I'm investing in and

becoming a I guess I can't announce too

much right now and we're basically just

finalizing the deal and going over the

safe agreement and safe means simple

agreement for future equities so we're

basically going through all these term

sheets and all this stuff and this deal

and this investment for me is massive

it's a massive play and I come off the

call and I feel like a king and I'm like

I got this again it's just so crazy

how in like 6 hours things can swing and

obviously that's me managing multiple

different businesses and Investments and

Ventures but like still the thought is

the same which is you're going to ride

these highs and lows but I just think in

the lows it's so important for you to

have a list of all the things that

you've done so far and and that list

doesn't need to be you making a massive

investment in a multi- figure company

that list could just be I got out of bed

today I didn't snooze I read five pages

of a book it could be as small as I

didn't text my ex today whereas 3 months

ago maybe that wouldn't have been the

case and to be honest this one of the

reasons I love journaling so much

because it's so beautiful just to have a

catalog of every single like where your

headspace is at and to be able to look

back and just just see how far you've

come so I think that's what I want to

end off today's video with which is

you're scared and the truth is so am I

and the truth is so are my billionaire

friends we all are we're all in this we

all feel alone but we all feel alone in

this together so so just understand that

make peace with it give yourself flowers

you deserve be your number one fan be

your number one supporter but also

understand that I'm here and as always

I'm watching from AAR and I'm rooting

for you