The Power of Questions to Sharpen Your Focus 🧠

Jim Kwik
10 Jul 202423:40

Summary

TLDRThis script explores the power of questions in shaping our reality, focusing on how they influence our perception, emotions, and decisions. It emphasizes the importance of mindful questioning in various aspects of life, such as learning, problem-solving, decision-making, and personal growth, suggesting that the right questions can lead to new insights and opportunities.

Takeaways

  • 🧠 The brain functions as a deletion device, filtering out information to avoid being overwhelmed, highlighting the importance of focus.
  • πŸ€” The power of questions lies in their ability to shape our reality by influencing focus, perception, and emotions.
  • πŸ” The reticular activating system (RAS) acts as a filter in the brain, determining what's important and responding to it, like hearing one's name.
  • πŸ’‘ Asking questions about something not previously considered important can lead to noticing it more frequently, as the brain starts to filter for it.
  • 🎯 Questions direct our attention and the brain works to find answers, concentrating on elements related to the question asked.
  • 🌈 The types of questions we ask can frame our attitudes and perceptions, affecting how we view problems and opportunities.
  • 🚦 Questions can influence our decisions by highlighting different aspects of a situation, leading us to focus on risks or opportunities.
  • πŸ’­ Questions trigger emotional responses, and the types of questions we ask can generate anxiety or excitement, sadness or joy.
  • 🌱 Asking the right questions can amplify and accelerate learning and growth by fostering curiosity and challenging existing beliefs.
  • πŸ’– Questions can deepen relationships by fostering empathy and understanding when we inquire deeply into someone's experiences and feelings.
  • πŸ›  Being mindful of the questions we ask is crucial as they shape our interpretation and interaction with the world, impacting our thoughts and actions.

Q & A

  • How many thoughts does an average person have per day?

    -An average person has about 60,000 thoughts a day.

  • What is the role of the reticular activating system (RAS) in the brain?

    -The reticular activating system (RAS) is a filter in the brain that determines what is important to an individual, essentially acting as a spotlight feature to focus on specific aspects.

  • How can asking questions influence our perception and reality?

    -Asking questions directs our focus and frames our perception, influencing how we feel and react to situations. It can highlight different aspects of a situation, affecting our decisions and emotional responses.

  • What is the 'red car theory' and how does it relate to the power of questions?

    -The 'red car theory' illustrates how asking a question (e.g., looking for red cars) can make us more aware of that particular thing, effectively changing our reality by focusing our attention on it.

  • How do the types of questions we ask affect our attitudes and assumptions about problems?

    -Empowering questions encourage a positive outlook and open up possibilities, while questions that focus on negative aspects can make us feel powerless and passive.

  • What is the significance of asking questions in the context of learning and personal growth?

    -Questions can amplify and accelerate learning and growth by fostering curiosity, challenging existing beliefs, and requiring us to integrate new information.

  • How can asking questions help in conflict resolution?

    -Questions can help clarify a situation and remind us of our values and commitments, guiding our behavior and potentially resolving conflicts more effectively.

  • What is the importance of asking questions in deepening relationships?

    -Questions can affect the depth and quality of relationships by fostering empathy and understanding, as they allow us to delve deeper into someone's experiences, thoughts, and feelings.

  • How can asking questions about health and productivity lead to better outcomes?

    -By asking questions related to health and productivity, we can identify areas for improvement, set goals, and find solutions that align with our values and needs.

  • What is the role of questions in innovation and professional advancement?

    -Questions can open up new opportunities and lead to innovations by challenging the status quo and encouraging out-of-the-box thinking.

Outlines

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🧠 The Power of Questions in Shaping Reality

This paragraph discusses the profound impact questions have on our lives. It starts with the speaker's personal routine to be energized before recording, emphasizing the importance of questions in directing our focus and shaping our reality. The speaker explains that our brain functions as a filter, using the reticular activating system (RAS) to determine importance. Questions act as spotlights, directing our attention and perception, which in turn influences our emotions and actions. The speaker shares an anecdote about noticing pug dogs more frequently after questioning why they were sent pictures of them, illustrating how questions can change our reality. The paragraph concludes by inviting the audience to use questions consciously as a tool for directing focus and achieving desired outcomes.

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πŸ’‘ Questions as Catalysts for Positive Outlook and Decision Making

The speaker delves into how the nature of questions we ask can frame our attitudes and assumptions about problems, suggesting that empowering questions foster a positive outlook and open up possibilities. They contrast questions like 'How can I make this work?' with 'Why does this always happen to me?' to highlight the difference in empowerment and agency. The paragraph further explains that questions influence our decisions by directing our focus to different aspects of a situation, such as risks or opportunities. It also touches on how questions can trigger emotional responses and the importance of asking questions that can lead to personal growth, innovation, and deepened relationships.

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πŸ€” The Art of Asking Strategic Questions

This paragraph focuses on the strategic use of questions in various life situations. The speaker encourages the audience to consider the types of questions they ask in contexts like learning, problem-solving, decision-making, and relationships. They provide examples of questions that could enhance learning, such as 'What's the best use of this moment?' for productivity, and 'What's most important to you in life?' for relationships. The speaker also mentions the importance of being mindful of the questions we ask ourselves and others, as they shape our interpretations and interactions with the world.

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πŸ›  Problem Solving and Decision Making Through Inquiry

The speaker explores the role of inquiry in problem-solving and decision-making. They suggest asking questions that challenge assumptions, such as 'What assumptions am I making about this problem?' and 'How would someone I respect approach this problem?' The paragraph emphasizes the importance of asking new and unique questions to gain novel insights. The speaker also discusses the value of considering long-term impacts, core values, and overcoming fear when making decisions. They conclude by highlighting the significance of questions in personal growth and innovation.

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🌟 Harnessing Questions for Personal Development

In this paragraph, the speaker discusses the use of questions for personal development across various aspects of life, including mental health, physical health, productivity, and conflict resolution. They provide specific examples of questions that can be asked to improve mood, identify sources of stress, enhance physical vitality, and increase productivity. The speaker also touches on the importance of asking questions that lead to actionable insights and the power of questions in goal setting and overcoming obstacles.

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Keywords

πŸ’‘Questions

Questions are central to the video's theme as they shape our reality, influence our focus, and determine what we perceive as important. The speaker emphasizes that questions act like a spotlight, directing our attention and shaping our experiences. For example, when the speaker's sister sends pictures of pug dogs, asking questions about these photos leads to noticing pug dogs everywhere, illustrating how questions can change our perception of reality.

πŸ’‘Reticular Activating System (RAS)

The RAS is a filter in the brain that determines what is important to us. It is mentioned in the context of how our brain processes information, highlighting that it plays a crucial role in focusing our attention. The speaker uses the example of hearing one's name, which is hardwired into the RAS, to explain how this system works to filter out irrelevant information and prioritize what is significant to us.

πŸ’‘Perception

Perception is how we interpret and understand the world around us. The video discusses how the types of questions we ask can frame our attitudes and perceptions about situations. Empowering questions, such as 'how can I make this work?', encourage a positive outlook, while questions like 'why does this always happen to me?' can lead to feelings of helplessness and victimhood, demonstrating the power of questions in shaping our perception.

πŸ’‘Emotions

Emotions are a significant aspect of the video, as they are influenced by the questions we ask ourselves and others. The speaker notes that questions can trigger specific emotional responses, such as anxiety or excitement. For instance, asking about hopes and dreams ('what lights you up?') can produce joy and motivation, while questions focusing on fears or past challenges can generate sadness or anxiety.

πŸ’‘Decision Making

Decision making is influenced by the questions we ask, as they can highlight different aspects of a situation and guide our choices. The video suggests that asking questions like 'what are the risks?' or 'what are the opportunities?' can lead to different decision paths, emphasizing the role of questions in shaping our decision-making process.

πŸ’‘Learning

Learning is presented as a process that can be enhanced by asking the right questions. The speaker encourages questions that connect new information to existing knowledge, such as 'how can I use this?' or 'what knowledge do I need to fully understand this concept?'. These questions are meant to foster curiosity and integrate new information, thereby accelerating the learning process.

πŸ’‘Problem Solving

Problem solving is another area where questions play a pivotal role. The video suggests asking questions that challenge assumptions, such as 'what assumptions am I making about this problem?' or 'what am I not seeing?'. These questions are intended to open up new perspectives and solutions, demonstrating the importance of questioning in problem-solving.

πŸ’‘Innovation

Innovation is linked to asking new and different questions that can lead to breakthroughs. The speaker mentions that most innovation comes from people outside an industry because they are not limited by existing beliefs about what is possible. Questions like 'how would we go about doing it today?' can inspire new approaches and solutions, highlighting the role of questioning in fostering innovation.

πŸ’‘Relationships

Relationships are deepened through the questions we ask, as they can reveal deeper insights into a person's values, thoughts, and feelings. The video suggests questions like 'what's most important to you in life?' to understand someone's values and priorities. These questions can foster empathy and understanding, showing the power of questioning in building relationships.

πŸ’‘Mental Health

Mental health is discussed in the context of self-reflection through questions, which can help identify sources of stress or unhappiness. The speaker encourages questions that focus on activities that recharge and balance, such as 'what activities make me feel recharged?'. These questions can lead to better mental health outcomes by prompting self-awareness and reflection.

πŸ’‘Productivity

Productivity is influenced by the questions we ask about our work and daily routines. The video suggests asking 'what is currently the biggest drain on my productivity?' to identify and mitigate bottlenecks. This approach underscores the importance of questioning in understanding and improving productivity.

Highlights

The importance of questions in shaping our reality by influencing focus, perception, and emotions.

The brain as a deletion device, filtering information through the reticular activating system (RAS).

The concept that questions act as a spotlight, directing attention to specific aspects of our environment.

The idea that the questions we ask can change our perception and reality, such as noticing pug dogs after being asked about them.

Questions as tools to consciously direct our focus and attention, leading to different emotional responses.

The exercise involving focusing on red and green objects to demonstrate how questions shape our perception.

The 'red car theory' illustrating how asking questions about specific items can make us notice them more frequently.

The impact of the types of questions on framing our attitudes and perceptions about problems.

How empowering questions can encourage a positive outlook and open up possibilities.

The role of questions in influencing our decisions by highlighting different aspects of a situation.

The emotional response triggered by questions and how they can be used in personal and professional relationships.

Questions as a catalyst for learning and growth by challenging existing beliefs and requiring the integration of new information.

The potential of questions to create opportunities and drive innovation by asking new and unique questions.

The use of questions to deepen relationships through empathy and understanding.

The concept that the questions we ask can shape our interpretation and interaction with the world.

The exercise of creating questions for various life situations to enhance learning, problem-solving, decision-making, and more.

The importance of being mindful of the questions we ask ourselves daily and their impact on our thoughts and actions.

Transcripts

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you've heard the phrase questions are

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the answer the reason why I feel

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questions besides changing your body

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like every time before I start recording

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I always do my my cross crawls and my

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super brain yoga and I take my you know

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my supplements and I do the things to be

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energized and present for you um I I the

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other part of it is not just your

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physiology or psychology and a lot of

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those my psychology I could ACC credit

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to the power of questions so again let

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me give you the the the background and

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then we'll do an

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exercise and my dog is really

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obnoxiously lot aside you have about

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60,000 thoughts a day and a lot of those

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thoughts come in the form of questions

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and the reason why questions are so

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important is because your brain

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primarily is a deletion

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device the theory I have is that we're

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trying to keep information out because

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if we let everything in we would be

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overloaded overwhelmed we would go

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insane if we there's a billion things

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you could focus on or think about

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there's a spotlight feature of your

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brain it's a filter called the reticular

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activating system Ras which you've heard

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other people talk about it's part of

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your brain and it determines what's

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important to you so for example your

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name is hardwired into your Ras so

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whenever you hear your name even if you

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don't recognize the voice you're still

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going to respond because it's hardwired

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your nervous system because it's

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important um and the other way of

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highlighting things are through the

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power of questions you you've heard this

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story that and I've said it on in the

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lives where my sister who happens to be

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visiting um he would send me these

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pictures of of pug dog right and then I

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started sending these pug dogs

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everywhere because I started asking the

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question you know why she send me all

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these photos of pug dogs and the idea

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here is I was deleting it it wasn't

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important until I started to ask

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questions about it then I started seeing

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them everywhere well what's in your

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reality or in your environment that is

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important to you that you're not you're

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deleting like those like I am was doing

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those pug dogs and one of the ways of

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doing that is to activate these

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questions so questions sign a shin of

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spotlight

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so the way I look at questions the

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questions we ask play a very pivotal

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role in shaping our reality by

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influencing our Focus influencing our

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perception and influencing how we feel

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because it depending on what you focus

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on is going to it's going to affect how

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you feel right if you focus on things

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you're grateful for you're going to feel

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different than if you're focused asking

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questions like what could harm you or

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what could go wrong and you're in that

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fear mode right it's going affects how

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you focus it affects how you perceive it

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focuses it fects how you act and how you

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feel so questions

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naturally I use them as a tool

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consciously and that's my invitation to

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you because at some point you're doing

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it already I'm just pointing out as a

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coach what you're doing when you're

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doing it you know well to get a result

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that you want it's getting you closer to

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what you want so it it it helps you to

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direct your focus so n so questions

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naturally direct your attention when we

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ask ourselves something specific our

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brain works to find answers and it

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concentrates on the elements related to

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that question so for example if you ask

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what went wrong right your mind focuses

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on the problems the mistakes the

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failures conversely what went well

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shifts your attention to the successes

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what can be positively built upon right

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um I mean here's an exercise I was uh

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speaking at a Tony Robbins event and he

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was saying and do this like uh like

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right now look around look around your

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environment right now quickly and look

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at everything that is read just red

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anything that's red just look around

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your environment red red red red red

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what's red anything any clothing

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carpenting or it's Automotive what's red

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just count as many things you have red

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and then everyone close your eyes and

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then I want you to name everything in

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your environment that is

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green so the idea here is um how you can

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open your eyes and you probably see a

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lot more green but what we what we ask

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questions about you know what is red

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what is red we start to get the answers

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and that becomes our reality it's

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there's something called red car Theory

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some of you have heard of it um it's the

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idea where if you did Drive recently

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over the past 24 hours which many of us

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have um did you pass a right car and do

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you really know right but let's say you

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were going to drive later today and I

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said okay you're going to get and I know

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this is an international crowd so you

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can do your own current you're going to

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get $100 for every red car that you

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spot you're going to be looking for

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those red cars right because you're

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asking the question where are the red

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cars and the idea here behind questions

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for focus is what you ask ask and you

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shall receive right um the questions

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also besides that and then we'll go to

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the exercise is it frames your

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perception meaning the types of

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questions we ask can frame our attitudes

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our perceptions about something so

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empowering questions encourage see you

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I've said this a long time ago um that

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the problem is often not the problem the

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problem is usually our attitudes or

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assumptions about the problem right and

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those are things I want to question so

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empowering questions encourage a

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positive outlook that can open up

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possibilties so for

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instance how can I make this work

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instills a sense of agency right a sense

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of personal um Power and purpose while

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questions like why does this always

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happen to me

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uh it I don't know say it like why does

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this always happen to me I just feel

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like I don't have a lot of power I can't

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I don't have agency I don't I I I I'm

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feel like something's happening to me

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like I'm a victim um and I have a more

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and it feels more passive it actually

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feels I haven't said this like why does

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it happen to me for a while so I'm just

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kind of leaning into it but it feel it

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feels like I I can't do anything because

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I feel um powerless why does this always

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happen to me and so it so number one

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questions direct your focus like I said

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what went wrong what what can I be

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grateful for what went well the second

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thing it frames perceptions meaning how

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can I make this work is different than

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why does this always happen to me um

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third question the third thing that I

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think questions do it influences our

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decisions so what do I mean by that

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questions influence the decisions we

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make because it highlights it sends a

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spotlight to

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to there's always infinite knowledge

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about a subject right and so we're only

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looking at a certain part of that

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knowledge base and so um it highlights

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different aspects of the situation so

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let's influencing decisions I could ask

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questions like what are the risks right

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if I ask what could go wrong or what are

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the risks I'm going to more likely focus

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on safety right um if I'm asking what

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are the opportunities instead I could

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lead to more calculated risks and

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embrace you know new Solutions out of

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the box thinking Innovation so on um and

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then

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finally questions I would say number

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four they I want to remind you they

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trigger emotions all right and then so

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it's not just the questions you ask

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yourself it's questions you ask your

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family your team your uh potential

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customers right it's asking you know the

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idea here is you know you've heard this

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it's not M two you have two ears and one

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mouth because you're supposed to listen

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twice as much you ask a question and let

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people talk because often those answers

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are there so the questions that we

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Ponder can trigger specific emotional

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responses and we know people buy you

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know primarily

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emotionally um especially

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elephants um questions that focus on

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fears or doubts or past you know

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challenges can generate anxiety and

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sadness conversely questions about hope

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you know like what lights you up uh one

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of my favorite questions even I don't

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like small talk I'm just I'm just not

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really good at it um and I think people

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could tell but I was just at an event

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recently and I my questions are like you

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know you know what what's lighting you

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up nowadays you know passions projects

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and so on um so I ask those questions

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and I hear about people's hopes their

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dreams their potential achievements and

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it produces excitement you know Joy

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motivation and then questions I would

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say number five another benefit of

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asking the right questions and I'll go

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through my process

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um it it amplifies and accelerates

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learning and growth by asking let's say

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exploratory and reflective questions we

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Foster learning and personal growth

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because that's what curiosity is right

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uh somebody who's curious asks a lot of

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questions uh you kids just asking me why

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why why why why which is a strategy by

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the way asking like five or six or seven

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wise to get down to the root of of of of

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a situation um but questions could

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challenge your exist existing beliefs uh

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are require us to integrate new

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information like is like I've asked a

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question like what's uh one plus one

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like it's all 11 right but like here's

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the thing like because most people would

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say that it's absolutely two and I was

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having a conversation with a friend the

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other day and they're like well let's

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say you have a drop of water and you

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added to another drop of water how many

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drops of water do you have right or you

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have a cloud that merges with another

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Cloud one and one and then you don't

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have two anymore you want Cloud right so

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it's the idea here is questions allow

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you to to see something from new point

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of view and it can enhance your learning

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and growth questions that challenge your

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existing beliefs um and this kind of

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inquiry is crucial for I think personal

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growth personal development um questions

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could also create

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opportunities I think it's the basis of

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all Innovation where asking the right

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questions can open up a new opportunity

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so let's say in a professional setting

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asking about ways to improve processes

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or develop new products can lead to

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Innovations and advancements like it

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it's like uh somebody not in the

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automotive space like an Elon or

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whatever looking in and asking a new

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question like if we're going to create a

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car an automobile today how would we go

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about doing it right and they won't have

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the same blinders as everybody there's a

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book called the structure Scientific

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Revolution that says most Innovation

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comes from people outside the industry

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because if you're inside the industry

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you're going to get the same education

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and same beliefs of what's possible and

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then finally questions as I use them is

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also could deepen

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relationships um I mean just think about

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even if you have a team you're

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interviewing people right they're asking

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you questions you're asking them

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questions if you're going on a date

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there's questions and questions um

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questions that we ask can affect the

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depth and quality of our relationships

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professional and personal so when you're

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doing this inquiry deeply into someone's

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uh experiences their thoughts their

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feelings their strengths their

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connections their empathy it Fosters

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empathy and understanding right so in

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essence the questions that we choose to

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focus on shape how we interpret and

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interact with the world all right so

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that that that's my um that's my case

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for why questions are the answer and why

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they're so important because again we

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have 60,000 thoughts a day and a lot of

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those thoughts come in the form of

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questions and the challenge is we're not

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mindful of the questions we're asking so

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what I wanted to do is an

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exercise let's take random

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situations all right let's say um and

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you could write these down if you like

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that would enhance learning and then

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problem solving we all are facing some

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kind of difficulty or demand or some

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kind of challenge so when faced with a

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challenge asking the right question can

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open up a new

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solution decision making like when

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you're faced with making a

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decision what's the question that you

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ask yourself so what I'm asking you to

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do here and notice I'm asking with a

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question is to just create one question

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per situation you want to learn

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something what's your question that

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could lead to Better Learning you're

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facing a problem what's a question that

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you could ask

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yourself um you're facing a

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decision it could be

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relationships what's a thoughtful

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question that can enhance your

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understanding or empathy um like for me

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and my Rel relationships asking like

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what's most important to you in life is

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very important like I need to know that

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for people that are like in my family

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because that's their values right and

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that's how they make all their decisions

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so a favorite question of mine in

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relationships is what's most important

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to you in Life or what's most important

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to you in family or what's most

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important to you in a relationship and

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some people will say respect some people

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you know will say Fun Some people say

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safety some people would say Adventure

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that's very important information CU

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then I could ask another question like

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what has to happen in order for you to

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feel safe you know or or trusted you

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know or what has to happen in order for

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you to feel like you're having fun right

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and then people will give you their

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answers it's it's it goes beyond Like

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Love

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Languages um so if you want to so these

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are the where I have set questions I

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have have questions for learning a lot

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of them questions from um proposed uh

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some kind of challenge or problem I have

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questions I

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ask have questions and relationships I

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have questions even about my mental

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health like self-reflection through

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questions can help identify sources of

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stress or unhappiness and lead to better

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mental health outcomes right and so what

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kind of questions can you ask to improve

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your mood you know help you'd focus on

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things that will get you in that

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parasympathetic more more

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gratitude um physical health what are

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questions you know questions about it

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could be about symptoms that might you

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might be or lifestyle or treatments that

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can lead to Better Health outcomes

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productivity like if I let's say I want

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I'm floundering throughout the day and I

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want to say how do I get more productive

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right now what's the question you could

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ask like a favorite question of mine is

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what's the best use of this moment and

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it forces that question forces me to to

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uh lean into some something that's a

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little bit more productive um conflict

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resolution if you're having a spirited

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debate with somebody what's the question

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you ask them or ask of yourself and it's

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nice to have these pre you know

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subscribed

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because when you're in the state of

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anger or upset sometimes we don't you

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know go there um but sometimes in

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conflict resolution it's like you know

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thinking about what do you want do you

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want to you want to be Bri or do you

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want to be in love or like what's the

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question that's going to get you out

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because or like a question like who are

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you who you're committed to being maybe

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it's compassionate it's loving athetic

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and then the the behavior takes care of

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itself if you choose in that moment that

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question forces you to be remind you how

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important relationship is you know

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sometimes we say things out of because

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all learning in life is State dependent

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you're in that state remember when they

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say when you're angry don't send an

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email don't send it you know don't text

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that person don't make that call um give

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it a chance to you know harmonize and

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then and then follow up so all of these

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you know crisis if there's a crisis you

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know what's the right questions that

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could clarify a situation you know and

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so like like and so you can think about

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that and you could write some of these

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questions down you certainly could share

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it also is there like a kind of a go-to

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question you know some of mine which is

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taking knowledge turn into Power is like

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how can I use this whenever I'm

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listening sting and even this how can I

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use this why must I use this when will I

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use this you know and I put in my

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calendar cuz if it doesn't happen so

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like for questions for learning besides

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how can I use this when will I use this

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why must I use

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this um how can I learn to listen more

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and talk less great question when should

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I not use this great question absolutely

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you know other questions could be like

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what knowledge do I need to fully un to

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better understand this concept right how

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how does this information connect to

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what I already know is another question

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to relate it because all learning is

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taking something outside yourself and

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connect conting it to something inside

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connecting something unknown outside to

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something that you know right that's why

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metaphors and stories work so well um

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and another question you know like in

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what real life scenarios can I apply

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this this knowledge or this information

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to right then all a sudden if I don't

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ask that question I'm not going to get

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that that answer right even even 10x is

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easier than 2x which is a future book

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we're going through the idea here is

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achieving 10x of anything is easier than

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2x cuzz 2x you have to work harder right

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but you can't possibly work harder to

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10x your income or 10x your health or

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10x whatever you have to ask a new

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question in order to get there right

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it's that idea um Peter teal who's you

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know one of the famed uh investors Angel

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Investors United States he's like if I

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had to reach my 10-year goal but I only

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I I only had six months to do it how

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would I go about doing it right so and

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you ask a new question and you ask a

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question no one's ever asked before

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you're get an answer no one's ever

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gotten before right like let's say

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another category besides learning was

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problem solving and some of my favorite

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questions for problem solving is like

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what assumptions am I making about this

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problem right because it it might not be

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true right like that maybe if I have a

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conflict with somebody maybe that person

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I B in my head that that person's out to

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get me and everything else like that but

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you know what they say about assume

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right oh here's a question I ask we're

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problem solving all the time how would

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somebody that's you know 10 times

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smarter than me in this about this

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subject approach this issue and then I'm

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just like I'm all over that how can

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somebody I what how would someone I

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respect approach to this problem right

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then all of a sudden it gives me

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permission to step in and ask a new

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question and I think about you know

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certain avatars in my mind um then I I

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just in a way relate to them or

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associate them or learn from them or

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some people go as far as channeling you

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know like what they that person would do

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but that's that's What actors do right

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and actors get paid you know at least

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when your best of what you do you know a

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lot of money and what do they do they

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they pretend to be somebody else and

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they ask questions like what's this

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person's motivation right they they

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model that genius so problem solving

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questions what assumptions do I have uh

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how would somebody that's twice as smart

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as me or someone I really respect

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approach this problem another question

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is what am I not seeing like I love I

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ask this question a lot you know what

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what haven't I considered yet that might

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be crucial and then I ask that question

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and I and I get an answer because I

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never asked that question like what am I

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blocking like what am I refusing to pay

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attention to like consciously or

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unconsciously so you know that's

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learning that's problem solving I

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mentioned decision making and some of

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you are very familiar with um you know

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six thinking hats and some of the

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decision trees that I have and Limitless

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and we've done decision making and we

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have programs on these on productivity

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talking about decision- making but you

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know things like what what's the

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potential impact of this decision in

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five years I I don't think a lot of

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people ask that question you know that's

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the the idea behind Seven Generations

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right like what's the impact we're

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making over the next seven generations

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is part of your decision if you're

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looking because it forces me now look

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you know in decades and and centuries

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you know which option of the solutions

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here align most closely with my core

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values you know what would I what would

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I choose if I weren't

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afraid or or scared of of failing you

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know and then I mentioned mental health

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I mean what are some questions you could

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ask to improve your mental your own

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mental health maybe things like what

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what activities make me feel recharged

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and and more Balan baned um how are my

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thoughts affecting my mood and my energy

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who can I reach out to when I need to

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talk about something right like it's

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just these questions physical health

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same thing and like what I'm thinking

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about for my physical vitality and you I

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just got back from travel I got to

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travel three continents

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in three

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days yay um I'm you know I'm thinking

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about like what small changes can I make

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uh while I'm traveling to improve my

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overall all health and then but if I

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don't ask that question I'm not going to

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just randomly come up with the Sol so if

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I ask the question doesn't mean I'm

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going to come up with the answer but if

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I don't ask the question there's there's

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no chance I'm going to just come across

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you know when I when I need if I'm not

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you know like mindful about it so um you

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know how does my body react to different

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travel or situations or diet or whatever

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you know what health goals what health

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goals am I committed to achieving this

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year you know um productivity questions

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what is currently the biggest drain on

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my productivity I'll go there um because

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I think I I'm a big believer in the 8020

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role that 20% of your efforts give you

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80% of the results and it's 20% of the

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you know the situations that are giving

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us 80% of the kind of bottleneck so you

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know what's what's the what's the

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biggest drain of my productivity and and

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what can I do to mitigate it you know um

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like how like let's say you don't want

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to work out or you don't you you don't

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want to exercise or move because it's

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important of brain ask you know how can

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I do this but enjoy it and then all of a

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sudden you think about like you know

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taking a dance class or some playing

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pickleball whatever right you come up

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with ideas that wouldn't be that'll get

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you out of your normal kind of kind of

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space so I just feel like it's important

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to have questions for the categories

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that are important to you whether it's

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innovation personal finance conflict

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resolution goal setting you know like

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what what poten obstacles can I face and

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how can I overcome them you know how

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will I measure my progress and know to

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celebrate when I you know when I reach

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this goal um I feel like a lot of this

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could be valuable

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